Co Lan

An update on my sweet Minh Minh.

He has changed. A lot. He will ignore people who are talking to his face. Even after he's called out on ignoring them, he will continue to ignore them. I can see he's on his phone about 24 hours a day. When I came to visit last weekend, I came early in the morning on Saturday. His room reeked of weed. I called him out on it once he woke up. He pretended as if he hadn't smoked in his room. He said "that's weird" so I told him not to be stupid. I told Dustin. Minh smoked in his room again that night. Dustin didn't know what to do but eventually took away his phone. But only for the night. If I had gotten caught smoking WEED in my ROOM when I was younger, I would've been smacked, yelled at, and been grounded for at least a month. Dustin doesn't know how to be strict. The only way he'll get better is if he sees there are repercussions for his wrong actions. It worries me that he thinks this is okay. It also worries me that Co Lan doesn't see what's going on.
That Saturday I had come, it was very early in the morning. No one was awake except us. We talked about how Kiet doesn't eat vegetables, and not only that, that he refuses to even give a reason why he won't eat them. It really frustrates me, so I've never really understood why Co Lan, a nurse, had been okay with it. She has tried with him before. She fought him with it so much that he threw up eating a carrot. Co Lan cried telling me how she doesn't know how to parent anymore. I see her struggle. I see her give up when Minh fights back on something he wants. And that's why her kids are going in directions that none of us anticipated. Minh gets away with doing drugs because she's scared to tell him no for anything. Kiet plays games all day and has no friends because Co Lan doesn't force him to go out and do things other than virtual reality. Co Lan asked me to help out more. I told her Dustin will back her up, too. I'm really worried that things are going to get much much worse.