The Man for Me

I read an article last night titled "The 6 Things Every Catholic Girl Should Look for in a Man." The post essentially read that we should be searching for a man with good work ethics and goals, a smile and a sense of humor, a giving heart and love for family, patience, a man who is a leader, and also one who strives for holiness.

http://lifeteen.com/blog/the-6-things-every-catholic-girl-should-look-for-in-a-man/

This article really got me thinking into what exactly I look for in a man. And don't get me wrong, this article was great and pretty spot on in general. But this is my own personal criteria for the man I hope to meet one day.

First off- I am looking for a man. Not a boy. Not one who will be upset over petty things. One that is mature enough to own up for his own mistakes but also one who is careless enough to laugh and love me the way I desire.

I want a man who will love me unconditionally. One who will trust me in everything I do. I want to find someone who I can fully trust as well. Jealousy stems from the lack of trust in a relationship. I have a lot of guy friends who I 100% know I will never even come close to dating and I need my man to know that. I think I personally need to work on this one though. I need to have a good relationship with him before we commit to each other.

I need a man who will support me. I want him to be friends with my friends and enjoy it. I want to be friends with his friends and love it. I want him to be there when I find out I got that promotion. I want to be there for him when he finds out his uncle has passed away.

In that sense, I need someone who knows when to have fun and when to be serious. I need a man who will set aside his personal needs for mine when something tragic has happened. I need a man who won't question me when I ask him to come over. But... I'm also looking for someone who will ask me to go to the trampoline house and jump for three hours straight.

I'm looking for someone who has a plan. I need him to know that we're going to get married and have kids. I want him to want kids. I need him to want kids. I will be blunt- that's a tie breaker for me. I will end things with a boy if he tells me he doesn't want kids. I don't see a future with anyone who doesn't want to continue our love through having kids. My worst nightmare would be finding out I can't have kids. I want to have a big family. I have a dream of one day waking up next to my best friend, also my husband, in the house we've built together with the family we have built together.

All in all, I'm looking for love. No hook-ups. No "friends with benefits." No flings. I think it's time I grew up and started looking for something more. I want to love a man more than anything in the world. I want a man who will love me just the same. I want to feel the sparks. I want butterflies. I want a smile to form on my face when I get a text from him. I want kisses in the rain. I want hour long phone calls in the middle of the night. I want sleepovers. I want goodnight kisses. I want someone to be proud of. I want to brag about him. I want him to brag about me. I want every story I tell to have his name in it. I want him to want me. I want something other than what I have now.

And on that note, I want to be content being single. I want to trust God and His plan. It's hard to fully trust in something when it feels like nothing is going my way. But I will continue to pray and I will trust in Him.